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Food for Thought Friday: What Are You Grateful For?

You may or may not be aware that I’ve been listening to a self-help audiobook–I know. Totally not my thing. But I’ve been doing it anyway because broaden your horizons and all that jazz. (The book is You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero if you want to check it out). But at one point in the book, it talks about focusing on the positive side of a situation and finding things to be grateful for, even when times are hard.

I’ve found a lot of the advice in this book to be sort of gibberish, but I couldn’t stop thinking about this chapter.

How many times have you thought yourself into a bad mood? I can only speak for myself, but I’m willing to guess it’s a lot. We micromanage and obsess over the bad things in our lives

I can’t believe I had a stain on my shirt in that interview! I’m never going to get the job. 

Of course I just tripped as I walked past a hot guy. Chance=blown

I can’t believe I just failed my math final. My life is over.

Freshman fifteen? More like freshman fifty! WHAT HAVE I DONEEEEE

And so on.

And I’m as guilty of doing this as anyone else.

SO. I’ve designed a little experiment for myself, and if you’d like, you are more than welcome to join me. Each day I’m going to take the time to physically write down (on paper–no typing!) 10 things I’m grateful for each day. And I don’t mean big picture things like I’m grateful for my family and friends and health–I mean little specific things that happened that day.

For example, here’s my first list:

I’m grateful for…

1.  How pretty the mountains looked on my drive home

2. How happy and giddy my grandmother was at her Mother’s Day present

3. How tightly she hugged me goodbye

4. How hard I laughed at my dad’s jokes

5. That we were all able to be together for Mother’s Day

6. That the rain on our hike only lasted a little while and I didn’t slip on the rocks on our way back down

7. That my dogs were so blissfully happy to see me when we got back

8. How quickly I managed to fall asleep that night (I’m usually a bit of an insomniac)

9. That my friend trusted me enough to call me and ask for my advice over one of her problems

10. How freaking fantastic the book I’m reading is so far!


So there you have it! I’m hoping this exercise will force me to be more positive and enjoy the little things more, and ultimately improve my quality of life. It’s something small, but I believe it’s something important.

Thanks for reading.

What are you grateful for?

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Food For Thought Friday: Kindness

In high school, my teacher had us do an exercise where the class stood in a circle and someone held a ball of string. The person would say what they value then toss the string to someone else, who would toss the string to the next person and so on until the entire class was bound by this web of strings in the middle. The point was to see how our similar values connect us and everything.

I started thinking about that today, wondering what do I really value? I think back during that exercise I said something like “I value happiness and laughter.” But if asked the same question today, I think my answer would be different.

My experience as a waitress is probably to blame for this—one rude customer can ruin your whole day—but I truly value kindness, which is unfortunately underrated in today’s society.

When you have a job that deals with the public, you learn things about people. You learn how rare genuinely kind people are, and how awful rude people are to deal with.

So this Friday I thought I’d leave you with this: exude kindness even if others haven’t offered you the same courtesy. You never know how your kind words or smile will help brighten another person’s day (as cheesy as that sounds).

There’s no reason for us not to be kind to one another.

I know this isn’t writing related, but thought I’d give you some food for thought 😉

What do you value?

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Food For Thought Friday!

Today I thought I’d share with you some of my favorite quotes.

Here’s one writing related:

Yes, everything has been written, but also, the thing you want to write, before you wrote it, was impossible to write. Otherwise it would already exist. You writing it makes it possible.

–Alexander Chee

And another just life related:

When the tides of life turn against you, and the current upsets your boat, don’t waste time and tears on what might have been, just lie on your back and float.


Hope everyone has a great Friday night!